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[kellinator]

This is a topic that comes up so frequently on my friends list that I just want to state my position on it here.

At some point practically everyone on LiveJournal wonders aloud why their deepest, most personal posts get almost no comments while everyone has something to say on their silliest, most vapid posts.

I'm here to tell you that it's not just you, it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, and it doesn't mean people don't care. It means we don't know what to say. I mean, do you really want me to make some stupid, vapid comment on a post that clearly means a lot to you?

Sometimes it's hard to know what to say on the important stuff. But everyone's got an opinion on silly stuff. It's a lot easier to discuss your favorite Survivor than deep, life-and-death type issues for most people.

Just a thought.

Comments

[mizdandylynn.livejournal.com]

well said, Kell....
I struggle with words sometimes... and sometimes I make the tough posts at times when there aren't that many people around... They don't read all the back posts... and they say point anything important out to me... well, how do you say... *jump up and down* here I am, I'm important here...this is incredibly important to me so here... see my pain.. see my love.. see my memories that rock my world...

*sigh*... that is why I always go back and read... because I don't want to miss anything that is important to my friends, even if I don't always comment

[kmeghan.livejournal.com]

I feel the same way. Sometimes when I write something a little more personal, I don't always want any response. And I never really know what to say to people when something happens.

[jennay138.livejournal.com]

nicely put.:)

[metaphorge.livejournal.com]

That's it. Exactly.

[katyakoshka.livejournal.com]

Word.

[malinaldarose.livejournal.com]

Hear, hear.

[daraflower.livejournal.com]

actually, i'm really glad you said that. i've been kinda bummed that my gushy vegas post was passed over. i mean, it wasn't like, deep or whatever... but yeah, something really cool happened to me, and i wanted to share it.

but i *know* people are busy, and when i've had a chance to speak with or IM my friends, they are in fact excited for me... i guess just it took me by surprise, because everyone is so generously well-wishing when i have happy job news. but i think a lot of people are in shitty places romantically right now. in which case, i'm not gonna complain. ;)



also i think there's some kind of positive feedback thing... like, the more comments you have, the more you'll get. people who read the existing ones have more text to respond to, so maybe they're more likely to post a new one.

do you notice kind of an ebb and flow with your friends list too? there will be like hours of dry spell, then suddenly i can't keep up! weird.

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[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Oh, total ebb and flow. Yeah.

I think I somehow missed your Vegas post? Sometimes I fall behind on the weekends.

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[daraflower.livejournal.com]

heh, yeah.... i think it was a missable kind of post maybe, in part, because of the style? it's pretty bad in terms of rambliness and stream-of-consciousness... ness... and like i said, it's not my best or deepest work so i didn't expect a LOT of comments, but yeah, a nod from my closer friends would have been nice.

[kmeghan.livejournal.com]

also.. who is that in your icon? was he in Lord of the Rings? was he the guy who was almost burnt? pretty good looking. :)

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[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Yeah, Faramir from Lord of the Rings, played by David Wenham. My lust for him knows no bounds.

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[kmeghan.livejournal.com]

i liked him quite a bit as well. He reminds me of donal logue... but hotter :)

[purpig.livejournal.com]

that is how you get to know people though... by talking with them about important shit.

[idioticpoet.livejournal.com]

Totally.

[marigold.livejournal.com]

amen

[podling]

That's the majority of the why, I would say. I mean, more or less. But there can be other reasons too. When I lived with astrophysicat I pretty much never replied to her at all because it was easier to make myself understood in person, plus the in person stuff is better.