I'm really only ever there on particularly good days...or when I'm incredibly pissed off. ;) The rest of the time I just try to keep me in the top ten of "people whose opinions matter". :)
One exercise that helps: You find that you're giving a fuck about what someone thinks about. You stop and pause. You mentally catalogue the reasons why what they think about you fails to matter, and furthermore, you evaluate what you think about *them*. Imagining obscene hand gestures or rude little dances while doing this is both permissable and encouraged.
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Date: 2003-11-12 07:38 am (UTC)And so do I.
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Date: 2003-11-12 07:41 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 08:22 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 08:30 am (UTC)I know it's spur of the moment, but wanna get lunch?
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Date: 2003-11-12 10:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 02:43 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 08:39 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 10:32 am (UTC)I'm really only ever there on particularly good days...or when I'm incredibly pissed off. ;) The rest of the time I just try to keep me in the top ten of "people whose opinions matter". :)
But it's an admirable goal. Go for it!
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Date: 2003-11-12 11:21 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-11-12 03:56 pm (UTC)You find that you're giving a fuck about what someone thinks about. You stop and pause. You mentally catalogue the reasons why what they think about you fails to matter, and furthermore, you evaluate what you think about *them*. Imagining obscene hand gestures or rude little dances while doing this is both permissable and encouraged.
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Date: 2003-11-13 03:40 pm (UTC)