never let your head/ hit the bed/ without my hand behind it

[kellinator]

The problem with the kind of guy I'm looking for is that he only exists in my imagination and John Mayer songs.

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[notgruntled.livejournal.com]

And silly me, I actually believed all the magazines when they said "ask a guy out! He'll be flattered!" Because it's almost always ended with the guy saying yes just to be polite, then giving me the friends speech. I'm convinced that men feel emasculated when women ask them out. Or maybe some of them are intimidated by a woman who goes after what she wants.

Some, sure. But not most, I don't think. But remember that we're talking about guys who, in the main, are at least a little insecure to begin with, and bad at reading signals. There's a fine line between assertive and aggressive.

Then there's Groucho's old "any club that would have me as a member" rule. Someone insecure enough will assume that someone he doesn't have to pursue, cajole and wear down must have something wrong with her.

Men may bitch about women never going after the nice guys, but in my experience, what they're really bitching about is that models never go for the nice guys.

In my experience, men want nice women even less than women want nice men.

Fair enough. Men and women both suck. You and I are blind people describing opposite ends of the elephant.

And I'll agree with you that men are definitely more shallow when it comes to visual beauty, but women are more likely to be drawn to guys with money, so those things might roughly balance each other out.

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Hey, I hope I didn't come across harsh in my original reply. I guess it kinda touched some nerves, but hey, we've both got valid points.

Here's hoping there are some real nice people out there for both of us.