Oh, fucking terrific.

[kellinator]

My mom called me this morning to:

1). bug me about have I bought some stupid book my dad wants on Amazon;

2). announce that they're planning on coming to see me in three weeks (all together now: OH SHIT);

3). inform me that I accidentally hit some button on my phone this weekend and she got to hear me explaining to a third party that I have no self-esteem because of my parents.

I really don't want my parents to come visit.

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[elizabethf.livejournal.com]

meep.

[spiritchaser1.livejournal.com]

3). inform me that I accidentally hit some button on my phone this weekend and she got to hear me explaining to a third party that I have no self-esteem because of my parents.

Oh crappy hell. And she just sat there and didn't say anything? She just listened in on your conversation? Argh. Ah, well, she is a mom. Good luck. Stock up on Valium.

[ga-sunshine.livejournal.com]

Can I get nosy?

1. Why are they coming to visit?
2. Do you HAVE to let them stay with you?
3. Did you tell her it is rude to eavesdrop?
4. MASSIVE HUGS

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[kellinator.livejournal.com]

1). to be nosy, probably
2). if I tell 'em to get a hotel, they'll probably start yelling about don't I realize my dad is unemployed (never mind that they just built a new deck and are replacing all the dining room windows with the plate-glass ones my dad wants. IMNSHO, they are fiscally fucking irresponsible)
3). no, because I was too busy trying to figure out which conversation she overheard
4). thanks, I needed that. **hugs**

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[ga-sunshine.livejournal.com]

YOU don't have to be their victim any longer, Kel. You can choose to say to them...I love you guys and right now is not a good time for a visit. I would love to see you some other time if you're coming to support me and to love me. or something akin *gentle hugs

[technomom]

What GiG said. They can stay in a hotel or choose not to come right now. *hugs*

[tikimama.livejournal.com]

Tell them it's not a good time, could they please come weekend X instead? I mean, you are a grown-up, you don't have to be victim to their whims.

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[kellinator.livejournal.com]

You're absolutely right. The only problem is, I don't think there's going to be a weekend when I want to see them.

[tikimama.livejournal.com]

I assumed that was the case, but I figure, at least if you pick the weekend: 1. you're prepared 2. you don't have anything planned and 3. you set up a situation where you get to say no, which it seems to be is very important with your parents, to begin to establish your boundaries and your right to say no.

[sassysmile.livejournal.com]

I agree...

[azurelunatic]

No kidding. Your place, your rules, your fucking life.

Am so very glad I get along with mine.

[wolvy]

I agree with what the others say! tell them that you're busy that week (or forsee being too busy to host them as they'd like to be hosted (key thing, it's about *their* comfort)) and without making any commitment say "maybe later in the summer would be better..." and then change the subject to something about how work is hectic and only gets more so as it gets closer to school starting up again...

I don't understand where parents get this ability to make us feel like that! :P

*huge hugs*

[yendi]

Just add my voice to the list -- it's rude for anyone, even relatives, to self-invite.

As for #3, how did that happen?

*hugs*

[sage-and-sea.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

H.O.T.E.L., or no visit. You can do it.