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kellinatorEveryone said "chill out, we're saying you're really loyal and a really good friend!!"
Heh. Well, being a really good friend sucks. When you're the dependable one, everyone "forgets" to invite you to the fun stuff. Then they get in fights with their fun friends and come bitch to you about it. Then they make up with their fun friends and boom, they're off again while you sit around wondering why no one appreciates your loyalty.
No one doubts that the other houses can be loyal (even Slytherin is loyal to their own), but they have other skills too. I get the feeling that Hufflepuff is damning with faint praise -- "oh, Hufflepuffers are really nice. And they're loyal." Because they have nothing better to do -- they don't have the brains or panache.
I don't want to be known for being loyal when I could be cool in my own right instead, like Gryffindor and Ravenclaw and yes, even Slytherin. I'm tired of being "the good friend."
Heh. Well, being a really good friend sucks. When you're the dependable one, everyone "forgets" to invite you to the fun stuff. Then they get in fights with their fun friends and come bitch to you about it. Then they make up with their fun friends and boom, they're off again while you sit around wondering why no one appreciates your loyalty.
No one doubts that the other houses can be loyal (even Slytherin is loyal to their own), but they have other skills too. I get the feeling that Hufflepuff is damning with faint praise -- "oh, Hufflepuffers are really nice. And they're loyal." Because they have nothing better to do -- they don't have the brains or panache.
I don't want to be known for being loyal when I could be cool in my own right instead, like Gryffindor and Ravenclaw and yes, even Slytherin. I'm tired of being "the good friend."
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I totally agree with you but...
Sorry..... but you know how bad my memory is....
I have been having "issues" with being labelled "the confidante" as well. Seems like my many "Friends" were perfectly happy to give me a ring whenever they had a problem or wanted to listen to MY doubts and insecurities. They never asked me to go anywhere or do anything but they were perfectly happy to run up my cell phone bill in the middle of the night. Now that I'm in a secure relationship, and my "friends" are doing well too, no one could be bothered to give me a ring. Figures.
There's fair-weather "friends" and there's Stormy-weather "friends" too. You and I have a tendancy to have stormy-weather "friends" and frankly IT SUCKS. You expend a lot of energy getting to know them, trying to be supportive, help them out, share your secrets with them and "be a good friend" all around, but as soon as they just want to go out and have a good time, you are completely forgotten.
Bah.
We both have REAL friends still, Kelly. Hold on to those and try to forget about the flighty "friends". As mentioned before, they are only in it for the drama.