Here's why the whole Hufflepuff thing makes me mad.

[kellinator]

Everyone said "chill out, we're saying you're really loyal and a really good friend!!"

Heh. Well, being a really good friend sucks. When you're the dependable one, everyone "forgets" to invite you to the fun stuff. Then they get in fights with their fun friends and come bitch to you about it. Then they make up with their fun friends and boom, they're off again while you sit around wondering why no one appreciates your loyalty.

No one doubts that the other houses can be loyal (even Slytherin is loyal to their own), but they have other skills too. I get the feeling that Hufflepuff is damning with faint praise -- "oh, Hufflepuffers are really nice. And they're loyal." Because they have nothing better to do -- they don't have the brains or panache.

I don't want to be known for being loyal when I could be cool in my own right instead, like Gryffindor and Ravenclaw and yes, even Slytherin. I'm tired of being "the good friend."

Comments

[ilexx.livejournal.com]

well, *I* said Ravenclaw.

i'll take you out for drinks when i get there. it sucks that you have to feel that way. i kind of know what you're going through. maybe you need to develop your own fun elite friendships. you know, don't just sit around and wait for those people to come to you. just start grabbing people and orchestrating your own fun.

*shrug* idunno. *smile* cheer up damnit!

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Hey, thanks. That's really sweet of you... and really good advice.

[tropiquena.livejournal.com]

i missed all of this because of my parents' whole new freakish internet time limits. :( (ha-ha, not)

anyhow, i hear you on wanting to be recognized in your own right. i picked you for gryffindor, if that makes you feel any better.

in addition, i think that as someone who really used to be...not loyal with her rl friends, i think being considered a loyal and trustworthy of friends is one of the *greatest* compliments. sure, you'll often get shafted, and people may use you, ignore you, expect you to always be there, and just generally take you for granted. however, it speaks absolute wonders about your personality, if you can take all that and still be there for your friends.

just my two cents,
kali

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Thank you. That's a really nice way to look at it...

Re:

[tropiquena.livejournal.com]

you're welcome. it's true. :)

[thatbelle.livejournal.com]

HEY! I invited you to do something! JEEZE! Hee hee.... I have NO idea what you're talking about as far as the Hufflepuff thing b/c I think that was from your Harry Potter quiz...and since I've not read the books or seen the movie, I just kinda skimmed it...sorry...but anyway, it does suck to be the loyal friend sometimes....you get shitted on a lot.

BUT HEY! Be sure to let me know if you saw my post about this weekend. :O)

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Sure thing, sweetheart.

[atomicnumber51.livejournal.com]

funny, when I graduated, moved out and did that whole adult, professional thing, I realized the only friends I care about or have time for are the loyal ones. I have no "fun" friends, who go off and have drama amongst themselves. A fun night for me is hanging out with Chris or my roommates, catching a movie or something and getting a bight to eat. The high point of my weekend: dim sum and grocery shopping.

There's a point where going out and being wild and crazy becomes overrated, and all you want is someone to gossip harmlessly to about old school friends, and discuss the book I've been reading in 20-minute increments on the bus for the past month with. and *that's* why I pegged you as hufflepuff.

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

That's lovely -- but I wanna be as smart as you Ravenclaws!

What are you reading, btw?

gold star for you!

[indiepunkrock.livejournal.com]

you get the gold star because you are the 'super fly girl (woman)' Hey, if all else fails you can always come and chill in Carrollton with me. There is nothing here and it's a geat way to just get away from everything. Let me know if you ever need anything...My apartment is always open to you...

Re: gold star for you!

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

Thanks... I'm pretty busy these days, but we will have to meet up sometime!!

I was playing devil's advocate when I defended Hufflepuffs

[dslartoo.livejournal.com]

Mainly because I had you pegged as a Ravenclaw. Doesn't matter.

Slytherins loyal? What-the-fuck-ever. They'll do whatever it takes to get ahead and achieve their ends, including betraying friends, cheating, and other fun tactics. Read the books and then try and tell me that Slytherins are worth the paper that tales of them are printed on. :)

The point was that Hufflepuff isn't a fate worse than death. I personally regard loyal and true friends as the best thing a person could ever have. Maybe it's just me.

cheers,
Phil

[tygerlilly.livejournal.com]

Oh Kelly get your panties out of a wad.

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

But I'm so good at it!

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[tygerlilly.livejournal.com]

That's for sure

[musicwolf.livejournal.com]

Hey, being the loyal and straight man isn't that bad. I was in high school, I was accepted by every group, while not really a part of any...except band. But, I got to do a lot of cool things because they figured out if I was with them...the administrators would leave them alone, because I wouldn't do anything wrong...so when do I get my oscar. Anyway, being the best friend does suck...for me I was every girl's best male friend, you know the one that they would tell who they liked and wanted to know if they liked them back. The kiss of death because I was a "brother" and off limits for relationships. But, I wouldn't have changed it for anything...even a cute redhead flute player, sigh, but I digress. I was a friend that helped a lot of people through a lot of shit, being beaten by parents, attempted suicide, and other shit like that. While I have very few friends, if someone earns that level with me, I will do my best not to let them down and be someone to count on. I may not have been the first one called for a party, but if something serious was going on, I was there. One bad thing, I grew up too fast, another I like helping people.

Speaking of which, ask cute library boy out

I totally agree with you but...

[not-hothead-yet.livejournal.com]

the sad truth was that I picked HufflePuff because I mixed it up with RavenClaw. I thought HufflePuffs are the smart ones... after all, you're working in a "smarty-pants" outfit, you're on campus all the time, you're gonna study library science -GEEZ, if that ain't "smart squadron" material I don't know what is!

Sorry..... but you know how bad my memory is....

I have been having "issues" with being labelled "the confidante" as well. Seems like my many "Friends" were perfectly happy to give me a ring whenever they had a problem or wanted to listen to MY doubts and insecurities. They never asked me to go anywhere or do anything but they were perfectly happy to run up my cell phone bill in the middle of the night. Now that I'm in a secure relationship, and my "friends" are doing well too, no one could be bothered to give me a ring. Figures.

There's fair-weather "friends" and there's Stormy-weather "friends" too. You and I have a tendancy to have stormy-weather "friends" and frankly IT SUCKS. You expend a lot of energy getting to know them, trying to be supportive, help them out, share your secrets with them and "be a good friend" all around, but as soon as they just want to go out and have a good time, you are completely forgotten.

Bah.
We both have REAL friends still, Kelly. Hold on to those and try to forget about the flighty "friends". As mentioned before, they are only in it for the drama.

two things

[sirinek.livejournal.com]

Kelly,

Two things here:

1) I agree 100% with tygerlilly in saying "Get your panties out of a wad". :) You cant ask questions of your friends, expect them to be honest with you, get that honesty and then get upset when you dont like the answer.

2) If people dont invite you to "fun stuff", then make/find your own fun stuff, get people moving, etc. Invite people! You can do it! And if someone forgets to invite you to their fun stuff, simply forget to invite them to yours. :)

siri