human nature?
Jul. 29th, 2004 01:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kellinatorExpanded from my last post...
Why is it that we gravitate to people who treat us poorly and frequently ignore people who treat us well? I'm not just talking about a romantic context, either. Think of the really nice person at work. The one who always asks how you're doing, bakes you cookies. In other words, the one who drives everyone crazy. In your school days, were the popular kids the nice kids? In my school, they usually weren't. That was reserved for the rich kids, the good-looking kids, the athletic kids. Why do we want to invest time and energy in people who obviously aren't interested in doing the same for us?
I'd love it if somebody could prove me wrong here, that people don't actually do this all the time, but I don't have that much faith in human nature.
Why is it that we gravitate to people who treat us poorly and frequently ignore people who treat us well? I'm not just talking about a romantic context, either. Think of the really nice person at work. The one who always asks how you're doing, bakes you cookies. In other words, the one who drives everyone crazy. In your school days, were the popular kids the nice kids? In my school, they usually weren't. That was reserved for the rich kids, the good-looking kids, the athletic kids. Why do we want to invest time and energy in people who obviously aren't interested in doing the same for us?
I'd love it if somebody could prove me wrong here, that people don't actually do this all the time, but I don't have that much faith in human nature.
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Date: 2004-07-29 11:32 am (UTC)- Richard Bach, Illusions:The Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah
I think many times we focus on those people/problems rather than gravitating towards them. They are the ones that nag you and stay in your head. I also think that there is a horrible trend these days to focus on only the negative aspects in life. It is one of my biggest irritations when I realize that someones pettiness has taken up a second of my thought ... just isn't worth it.
I have gravitated towards 'some' people who have treated me poorly, but for the most party I have found the world to be full of kind, loving people who are there for me ... and who I recognize in return.