You've already started being brave -- you're seeing that other people's expectations and your own stubbornness have led you places you don't even know if you wanted to go.
Time to lock yourself away in a featureless hotel room, no Internet, a spiral notebook and reliable pen or two, and figure out what you want from life. What kind of life you want to live, where you want to live it, what you want to achieve. List the things that have given you satisfaction. List the things that have made you miserable.
It's not an easy process, and it's not a once-and-for-all process, but it helps to do it. I'm about to go into Major Unplanned Life Change/Re-evaluation myself, and it's tough. Easier on me because I'm 43 and already know the things that make me happy, harder because I have to worry about retirement and other practical horrors.
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Date: 2003-05-24 09:17 pm (UTC)Time to lock yourself away in a featureless hotel room, no Internet, a spiral notebook and reliable pen or two, and figure out what you want from life. What kind of life you want to live, where you want to live it, what you want to achieve. List the things that have given you satisfaction. List the things that have made you miserable.
It's not an easy process, and it's not a once-and-for-all process, but it helps to do it. I'm about to go into Major Unplanned Life Change/Re-evaluation myself, and it's tough. Easier on me because I'm 43 and already know the things that make me happy, harder because I have to worry about retirement and other practical horrors.
Good luck, and be honest.