1) did I say fake laughter? Part of the mindset of flirting is that his jokes are genuinely funny to you, even when they're not. It's all in the hed, when you get it right, it's not forced laughter. It's hard to explain.
2) a short, to the point and very general category-type description of what I do is enough. No guy has ever, when first flirting with him been actually interested in what I do. I save that stuff for the first actual date. Maybe it's my own personal experience, since my job both looks boring from the outside, and seems to come off as intimidating. (I work for a consulting firm, doing actuarial analysis of health insurance premiums and reserves. Saying anything more detailed than "I'm a consultant" goes over like a lead zeppelin.)
3) In California hippy-dippy land (heh) this is a perfectly normal question. ;-) I've both asked it and had it asked of me. I'd never say it in a breathy hyper-flirtatious 40's movie star voice, but in a casual, "What make's you tick, what are you passionate about?" way. This has, recently, gotten responses like, "I write music and I'm putting a band togethr," and, "I love skiing and mountain climbing." It's never failed at getting a shy guy to come out of his shell.
Hrm. Maybe it's regional, maybe it's a delivery thing.
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Re: Speaking as a male.
Date: 2003-01-24 12:15 pm (UTC)2) a short, to the point and very general category-type description of what I do is enough. No guy has ever, when first flirting with him been actually interested in what I do. I save that stuff for the first actual date. Maybe it's my own personal experience, since my job both looks boring from the outside, and seems to come off as intimidating. (I work for a consulting firm, doing actuarial analysis of health insurance premiums and reserves. Saying anything more detailed than "I'm a consultant" goes over like a lead zeppelin.)
3) In California hippy-dippy land (heh) this is a perfectly normal question. ;-) I've both asked it and had it asked of me. I'd never say it in a breathy hyper-flirtatious 40's movie star voice, but in a casual, "What make's you tick, what are you passionate about?" way. This has, recently, gotten responses like, "I write music and I'm putting a band togethr," and, "I love skiing and mountain climbing." It's never failed at getting a shy guy to come out of his shell.
Hrm. Maybe it's regional, maybe it's a delivery thing.