laurel714 and I learned this lesson early on, about not knowing people on LJ as well as you think you do. We had just gotten married and had some kinks to work out. We butted heads pretty good because we'd both been in controlling relationships previously and were determined not to take shit from anyone ever again. We spoke openly about what we were going through on our journals, but for a week or so, Lori didn't really post anything, so I was the one doing the talking. Everyone was sympathizing with me, and kinda slamming her, and she didn't really defend herself. Finally, I came out and was like, "Look, there's more to the situation than y'all know. You're just hearing my side, here." Since then, I learned not to bitch about her on LJ if I can help it, and if I absolutely have to, I keep it filtered to people who I think won't be quick to judge her just by hearing my side of the story.
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Date: 2005-01-26 04:49 pm (UTC)