I'll bet that the more emotionally invested one was in hs popularity, either as a beneficiary or an outsider, the more one ingratiates the unpleasant and ignores the decent -- not consciously, but as a survival method, or suchlike.
Didn't play that game much in highschool, myself. Perhaps my school was too diverse, socially -- too many groups to really have one cohesive in-crowd. People who were from the same honors/college-bound track as I was knew me, and we generally got along. They tended to be the ASB types. I wasn't part of that sub-in-crowd, but I wasn't shunned either. Then I left a year early because I liked college better anyhow.
Maybe it's a matter of learning to not care whether everyone likes you -- I figure the people deserving of my friendship will find me deserving of theirs. If someone doesn't like me... they don't like me.
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Date: 2004-07-29 11:54 am (UTC)I'll bet that the more emotionally invested one was in hs popularity, either as a beneficiary or an outsider, the more one ingratiates the unpleasant and ignores the decent -- not consciously, but as a survival method, or suchlike.
Didn't play that game much in highschool, myself. Perhaps my school was too diverse, socially -- too many groups to really have one cohesive in-crowd. People who were from the same honors/college-bound track as I was knew me, and we generally got along. They tended to be the ASB types. I wasn't part of that sub-in-crowd, but I wasn't shunned either. Then I left a year early because I liked college better anyhow.
Maybe it's a matter of learning to not care whether everyone likes you -- I figure the people deserving of my friendship will find me deserving of theirs. If someone doesn't like me... they don't like me.