The above all sound right, definately worth listening to! :) Only additions:
Worry about a relationship when you have no other choice. Dating is about having fun - if you can't have fun (real fun, not forced fun) while dating trust me, you won't have fun when things get serious.
When you are trying to catch a fish, you don't reach for it, nor do you stay on land. You dip your hands beneath the waves, let some swim over, let some swim away, and when you have the right one that's when you take it. (That analogy also points out two other keys to dating successfully - 1) guys have the intelligence of fish, don't bother hoping they'll know better, 2) while you're staring through the waves things get distorted. Don't bother thrashing around for something that -once you really have it- isn't what you really wanted. Wait for the water to be clear for you and the rosy shades to be off before waiting for a relationship. And if you were still wrong, toss it back and jump in the river again. There isn't really a time limit to this, just have fun.)
Dating and relationships are not immune to the practice effect. The more you practice, the more you learn, and the better off Your final choice will be. Also, if you aren't having fun doing it, don't! Society is stupid, don't let it tell you what you are supposed to have to make you happy. Love stories are usually tossed in so Hollywood can stick in a cheap nipple shot.
Hmm.. actually, with the exception that what I typed was rather insane, this sounds a lot like what You used to tell Me when you were dating and i was single. Listen to yourself, you were very right! :)
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Sounds about right :-p
Date: 2002-02-01 05:31 pm (UTC)Worry about a relationship when you have no other choice. Dating is about having fun - if you can't have fun (real fun, not forced fun) while dating trust me, you won't have fun when things get serious.
When you are trying to catch a fish, you don't reach for it, nor do you stay on land. You dip your hands beneath the waves, let some swim over, let some swim away, and when you have the right one that's when you take it. (That analogy also points out two other keys to dating successfully - 1) guys have the intelligence of fish, don't bother hoping they'll know better, 2) while you're staring through the waves things get distorted. Don't bother thrashing around for something that -once you really have it- isn't what you really wanted. Wait for the water to be clear for you and the rosy shades to be off before waiting for a relationship. And if you were still wrong, toss it back and jump in the river again. There isn't really a time limit to this, just have fun.)
Dating and relationships are not immune to the practice effect. The more you practice, the more you learn, and the better off Your final choice will be. Also, if you aren't having fun doing it, don't! Society is stupid, don't let it tell you what you are supposed to have to make you happy. Love stories are usually tossed in so Hollywood can stick in a cheap nipple shot.
Hmm.. actually, with the exception that what I typed was rather insane, this sounds a lot like what You used to tell Me when you were dating and i was single. Listen to yourself, you were very right! :)