Dyeing my hair feels like a declaration. "I'm here, and I'm going to be a brat now!!"
it's SO good that you can do that. over the years, i would say that maybe a third of the random strangers who have commented on my hair are older/middle-aged women who would add to the compliment, "oh, i *wish* i could do that." when i invariably reply, "well... you should!" they usually demur with some comment about how everyone would think it's a midlife crisis... or that their kids would be so embarrassed. that makes me so sad! i mean, chances are you've spent your childhood and adolescence wanting to do things you couldn't/weren't allowed to yet... and then in early adulthood you likely had to bust ass at your job, or at raising kids, trying to earn respect. but later in life, by the time we become real grown-ups... i think a lot us forget that by learning to be responsible, we've now *earned* the right to be brats! no one is the boss of you, at least not of your non-professional life... so why not do what the fuck you want to?
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Date: 2003-07-24 11:20 pm (UTC)it's SO good that you can do that. over the years, i would say that maybe a third of the random strangers who have commented on my hair are older/middle-aged women who would add to the compliment, "oh, i *wish* i could do that." when i invariably reply, "well... you should!" they usually demur with some comment about how everyone would think it's a midlife crisis... or that their kids would be so embarrassed. that makes me so sad! i mean, chances are you've spent your childhood and adolescence wanting to do things you couldn't/weren't allowed to yet... and then in early adulthood you likely had to bust ass at your job, or at raising kids, trying to earn respect. but later in life, by the time we become real grown-ups... i think a lot us forget that by learning to be responsible, we've now *earned* the right to be brats! no one is the boss of you, at least not of your non-professional life... so why not do what the fuck you want to?