You know, the way I was raised, I heard that kissing someone on a first date, or even a second, was a sign that you were over-eager, possibly threatening.
I've kissed exactly one person on a first date. And in some ways, that's fucked me up worse than the relationships that have gone farther. Only one other have I kissed when knowing her less than a month.
Is my problem that I try so hard to be a gentleman that they all assume I'm not interested? Should I start taking tips from these borderline date rapists (alpha males, Naomi Wolf calls 'em) whom I always see hanging all over their woman at bars?
This isn't rhetorical. Your frustration with this guy sounds much like mine was with The Girl, though his behaviour sounds like a mix of hers and mine. I'm wondering if I was too polite for my own good.
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timeasmymeasure
Smooching for Dummies
Date: 2001-12-10 12:46 am (UTC)I've kissed exactly one person on a first date. And in some ways, that's fucked me up worse than the relationships that have gone farther. Only one other have I kissed when knowing her less than a month.
Is my problem that I try so hard to be a gentleman that they all assume I'm not interested? Should I start taking tips from these borderline date rapists (alpha males, Naomi Wolf calls 'em) whom I always see hanging all over their woman at bars?
This isn't rhetorical. Your frustration with this guy sounds much like mine was with The Girl, though his behaviour sounds like a mix of hers and mine. I'm wondering if I was too polite for my own good.