Secretary, and thoughts

[kellinator]

At slsanfran's suggestion, I saw Secretary this weekend. My eeevil side thinks it would be fun to hand an unmarked copy to my mom. "It's a movie about a secretary, like you!" But I digress.

I really liked it. Maggie Gyllenhal (sp?) is a terrific actress; she can say it all with a look. I hope she has a brilliant career.

As Scott and I agreed, it's not really a movie about BDSM. Sure, it got more publicity and interest because of that. But it's really -- and I swear I was skeptical when my co-reviewers at AAR said this, they're mostly married with 2.5 kids -- it's really a fairy tale. About there being someone for everyone, against all odds.

I'm becoming more and more convinced that somewhere out there, there is someone for everyone who wants someone. I mean, just last night my mom was telling me that my dad's best friend, who is a redneck with a beer gut like he's expecting triplets, has found love with my mom's shrewish coworker, who marvels that he likes her for herself. See? And you should see the way astrophysicat and tenn_crichton look at each other. If they weren't so damn cool I would have gone into insulin shock. ;)

I don't mean for this to sound patronizing to all of us who are having trouble finding that someone (myself included). But I just can't help but think that it really can happen, if we believe in it.

Comments

[bouncepogo.livejournal.com]

oh girl I sure as hell hope so.

Keepin' the faith!!

*crosses toes*

If not I'll be an old maid with four cats. :P

[kmeghan.livejournal.com]

I really liked that movie. i thought it was hilarous, and I was happy at the end for them... there is really someone out there for everyone i guess. :)

[ardentdelirium.livejournal.com]

just so long as when they find each other they both keep working to keep it good

[ariedana.livejournal.com]

Well, I almost wonder if sometimes you can meet the perfect person, but then for some reason of timing or chance it doesn't work out. So then you end up alone and knowing that it all got screwed to hell.

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

GAWSHDAMMIT I AM GOING TO BEAT YOUR ASS!!!!!

[ariedana.livejournal.com]

Oops, sorry.

You know I was talking about me. You're gonna be happy. I just know it.

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

I KNOW you're talking about yourself. This constant slamming on yourself is not acceptable!!

Re: perfect person

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

If you're going to believe in destiny enough to postulate a "perfect" person, then shouldn't you count on destiny enough to make sure that the two of you get hooked up.

After all, if they don't get hooked up with you, then they must not've been perfect for you since part of the perfection would've been a reflection of you with them...

[taoskye.livejournal.com]

I continue to hear great things about "secretary." It has been on the list for some time to pick up, but for some reason I continue to space it. Thanks for the glowing review it reminded me to get that again.

I honestly believe that there is someone for everyone. I also believe that you don't find them until you are truly ready for them. I guess I have always though that every relationship teaches you something even if its not something you want to learn. If you don't learn, then you probably have to do it again which for me was not something I wanted to do. Don't worry girl. It will happen when the time is right. Just don't lock yourself in a cave and expect to meet Mr. Right, rarely does he make house-calls. :)

[azurelunatic]

And votania and marxdarx have been disgustingly mushy over each other coming up on a year in September.

[mizdandylynn.livejournal.com]

I think you are right ... IF... you keep an open mind (not YOU specifically)...

I met my husband when I was 41.. he was 39.. we have been married for 6 months last sat... i moved to VA to be with him..and he moved back here with me to be with my family. Sometimes you have to be open to things you wouldn't normally do.. and you have to set some ideals in your head.. then just wait for it... it happens. And remember.. don't settle for less...

[adellyna.livejournal.com]

I thought it was not only a story about that, and about bdsm of course, but also about differences and tolerance, and the fact that we have no place judging anything or anyone.

All in all, it was a great story, great camera-work, great everything.

[crowyhead.livejournal.com]

I think "There's someone out there for everyone" is sort of like "You always find love when you least expect it." They're both true, but it's really freaking annoying to have to WAIT. heh.

And I say that as someone who thinks she's probably found that "someone," at least for this part of my lifetime. And yes, I met him when I least expected it.

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

Naturally, I'm agreeing with crowyhead here. Shocking that. I'd given up on it, myself, and was finally used to the idea. Stupid boy had to go and ruin all my plans to become a crazy cat lady. Of course, he also hadn't dated for years before me--he'd given up on it too.

I think part of the key may be that if you're not looking, you don't seem desperate. Course, I'm not not not saying that you come across that way. But I've known people (myself included) who have.

Of course, we were also both "old" (in our 30s). That part probably didn't help much, did it?

But yes, I really do believe that there is someone out there for everyone.

[technomom]

Yeah, the not looking part is important.

But personally, I think it's important to simply be okay whether there's "someone" or not. Unless you're okay with being single, you'll still give out the desperate vibe on some level.

Re:

[kellinator.livejournal.com]

You're so right... I'm working on it. It seems to be a very slow process though.