Poll time!!

[kellinator]

I was wondering if and how times have changed in the dating world since my mom's instructions for my first date, which I didn't buy even then ("He should pay for everything, and if he respects you he won't try to park with you"):

[Poll #85230]

Comments

[meemeedarling.livejournal.com]

Though I have no problem asking a boy out, if I am strongly inclined.. I am still quite old fashioned; I want him to ask me, I was him to open the door for me, I want him to order for me and purchase my meal.. And then if I like him enough, I want him to tie me down and beat me up.. *cackle*

Re: dating

[wolfieboy.livejournal.com]

I have no problems with opening doors, ordering, and purchasing meals. I can even get into tying down someone and being mean to them. But I'm frequently too clueless to know when I should ask someone out. So, clue-by-fours in that direction are often useful...

Re: dating

[meemeedarling.livejournal.com]

Its not that difficult.. If you are attracted to someone, on whatever level, go ask them out.. The worst they can say is no..
Its also helpful to have a mutual friend to get the scoop from...

[vill.livejournal.com]

Who should pay on a date is complicated. On the first date, whoever asked. In a relationship, it should come out pretty even with who pays for what, eventually. Or at least that should be the goal. Unless one person is mightily rich and the other is scraping by.

[atomicnumber51.livejournal.com]

You'll laugh... I'm with your mother on this one. At least as far as first dates go. But I'm pretty old-fashioned myself.

When I first meet a guy, the closest I would come to asking him out would be, "here's my number, we should have lunch some time." I leave the ball in his court as to the actual "do you want to have lunch/drinks/dinner?" call.

And he should pay, open the car door, let me sit down first at the table... And first date means a kiss goodnight, no invitations upstairs, etc. If he likes and respects me (and expects to see me again) he can wait to get in my pants.

I know, hopelessly backwards of me, but it's the way I grew up.

[lulabellafp.livejournal.com]

I've also asked girls out.

[str8jackethappy.livejournal.com]

i think i'm going to change my first answer to "guys". because from what *I* have seen and experienced, guys tend to say they like being asked out and it flatters them, but ultimately i think they still like to have a sense of control and chase in the situation, and it weirds them out to be asked out or chased. it's that whole STUPID "challenge" bullshit. games games games... grrr. and sadly it works. besides, if a guy doesn't have the balls or vision to see how precious you are and to ask you out, well, why would you want to have to train him?

*ducks and runs in preparation for being lambasted* ;)

ps - i also kind of agree with your mom. at least about the parking part. and not necessarily for proptiety's sake, but because you're worth the wait. and on the same note as him asking you out, if he doesn't see that you're precious enough for him to calm down and be patient, then he's not mature or intelligent enough for you.

(all "you's" and "him"s in this case are applied to the general populace of both genders...)

[cynical7.livejournal.com]

The reason I'd never ask a guy out?

Simple. They'd say no. I'd rather avoid rejection I could avoid by simply keeping my big fat piehole shut.

[metaphorge.livejournal.com]

I do not understand the concept of "emasculation".