It truly is a sad thing to watch someone fish for a compliment. But you do it best.
You make your bigger problems into something that is to be a social acceptance and considered cute. And your friends, at least here in this cyber world, do nothing more than to help reinforce this damaging cycle you stay on.
You whine about something. You go on and on about how horrible you are or how horrible something is. Your friends rush to your side just to reinstate that you are right because they want you to feel better. They baby you. They refuse to point out what the real issue is.
The real issue is that you need attention and the best way you have found to get it is to stay in this sour puss negative state of mind - always pointing out how bad another human being is, or how unjust or unfair it is you. What your friends need to do is point out what the real problem is. You have an extremely negative state of mind and you will do nothing to change so because that will bring you attention. And with your attention you receive, you are happy. It might not be the exact kind of attention you desire but it is attention none the less. And the truth is, you are just making yourself into a joke of "I love this friend but -"
If your friends really loved you, they would step up and say and point out what the real issue with yourself is. You need attention because you do not love yourself. Your lack of love for yourself is compensated with daunting friends of comforting because you feel sorry for yourself.
Your so-called-friends do not help you. They are exactly what is hindering you.
And it would be nice to see a post without some negative spin taken to it.
I am sure there is something good in your life. And I know you are probably very angry to what I have said but you are only angry because it is the truth. The truth will set you free.
dude. lighten the fuck up. everyone is human, and generally humans are self conscious of their pictures and whatnot.
why the anonymity?? what a cowardly way to go about picking apart someone's psyche on such an intimate level - by flaying them over the internet in front of others while you hide your name and who you are - ?? how small and sad and weak. the things you said might hold truth but your execution is piss poor and again, weak.
Oh, it's just Nancy again... big fat-old-ass coward that has no life and no friends.... and so the only way she can make herself feel better is by putting others down.
And yet, Kelly has a zillion complements and she is the only one complaining...
HEY NANCY! THIS IS FOR YOU....
*PLINK* *PLINK*
That is two pennies... go buy yourself a fuckin' clue... and with the change buy a life!
YOU, whoever the hell you *think* you are, have NO RIGHT to judge Kelly or her friends.
You have NO LIFE if you've nothing better to do than read people's journals and post as an anon. If you think so little of Kelly, why the fuck are you taking time to read her journal and comment on her life and her friends?
Hrm... your methods are... well... STUPID! And how dare you assume we simply baby and hand-feed kelly liek she is a helpless infant! She is NOT a baby, nor do we (or I at least) treat her as such. I treat my FRIEND like the INTELLEGENT HUMAN BEING that she is.
I have had MANY serious honest discussions with Kelly where she has gotten very annoyed with me. However, I never hid behind my words, and I never was mean like you are. I was serious, straight forward, and honest (correct me if I am wrong Kelly). I also was me... flawed, caring, up front, blunt... but never hurtful, never rude, and I never embarrassed her in public.
If you really care about someone you will be honest and up front. Since you are not, I will just make this bold statement...
Fix your own problems first before you have room to tell anyone else what to do with their lives!
If you were wanting to be "kind" and truly constructive instead of mean and hurtful you would have emailed her privately instead of going off on a rant on here. And if you "never thought any of you would even start to understand the bigger picture" you would have had absolutely no need to post on this anyway, because you KNEW we would stand up for Kelly. Face it, you're a drama queen (or king) who gets their kicks out of causing trouble and hurting feelings.
I know exactly where Kelly is coming from when she writes in here, as do many of us who are lucky enough to know her. If what she writes bothers you so much, do yourself and us a favor and don't read the journal.
For the record - I am not Nancy. I do not even know who she is.
So on top of everything else, you're either a bad liar. or even more pathetic than previously supposed..
Think about it (a stretch, I know). You're either Nancy, or you're someone who hates Kelly enough to want to post obnoxious rants in her journal.
Assuming possibilitiy #2, then you must either know Kelly and have a reason (real or imagined) for hating her, in which case you pretty much have to know who Nancy is, or you're a random pathetic attention-seeker.
So, you're either Nancy, more pathetic than imagined; a different pathetic liar; or a random lame-ass. Wanna trade whichver of those you are for what's behind Door #4?
I personally get angry whenever I see anyone say something to someone else that is intentionally hurtful. And the person freely admitted that was why it was posted - to make her angry and hurt to "validate" what was said. I'm sorry, but if someone's wanting to be constructive, there are better times and places and it should be a private matter. Too many things are done in the name of "helping people" as an excuse to cause trouble.
And if they really are a "friend" they should at least show their face to indicate who they are so that Kelly could know where they're coming from. That's just flat cowardly. How does Kelly know who in the hell is passing judgement on her and if they have any comprehension of who she is in real life?
How do you know you are not that joke yourself? The "I love this friend, but... " and your but would likely include being a coward, spending too much time on the computer, and clearly not having enough hobbies.
Friends are those who are there when a person is down without babying them. When I didn't agree w/ her I told her so - with my name behind what I said - and when I tell her something good its only because I believe it and because people - such as yourself - seem to have this phobia of saying anything other than bad things.
Here is an example: Current picture is ok but prolly needs to be run through a few filters for lighting. I've met her and she is incredibly cute, sweet, and fun to be around. Here's another example: It was nice of you to care enough to post. You were wrong, selfish, cowardly, an idiot, obviously untrained in even the most minimal of psychology, and visibly don't care enough for her to be a real friend. See how this works? Good. :)
What's really funny is, when Kellinator was posing, and wanted to create a mad icon, shadesong and I kept saying "nancy" to try to get her to scowl. And the funny thing is, she kept giggling. Because you're no longer worth getting upset about. You're a joke.
fishing for attention? check comments with a negative spin? check
oh wait, that's *your* post.
Kelly's e-mail address is on her user info page. Real friends are honest and compasionate, and when it comes time to handle shortcomings, it's generally best done in private. If you weren't fishing for attention, why take it public?
Or if you feel your words need the added weight of being public criticism, why not sign you name?
Oh yeah, when it's two people talking, it's a diologue. But when it's one person bitching, it's just a diatribe.
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Lovely!
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I like it.....
Going fishing?
(Anonymous) 2002-07-02 07:33 pm (UTC)(link)You make your bigger problems into something that is to be a social acceptance and considered cute. And your friends, at least here in this cyber world, do nothing more than to help reinforce this damaging cycle you stay on.
You whine about something. You go on and on about how horrible you are or how horrible something is. Your friends rush to your side just to reinstate that you are right because they want you to feel better. They baby you. They refuse to point out what the real issue is.
The real issue is that you need attention and the best way you have found to get it is to stay in this sour puss negative state of mind - always pointing out how bad another human being is, or how unjust or unfair it is you. What your friends need to do is point out what the real problem is. You have an extremely negative state of mind and you will do nothing to change so because that will bring you attention. And with your attention you receive, you are happy. It might not be the exact kind of attention you desire but it is attention none the less. And the truth is, you are just making yourself into a joke of "I love this friend but -"
If your friends really loved you, they would step up and say and point out what the real issue with yourself is. You need attention because you do not love yourself. Your lack of love for yourself is compensated with daunting friends of comforting because you feel sorry for yourself.
Your so-called-friends do not help you. They are exactly what is hindering you.
And it would be nice to see a post without some negative spin taken to it.
I am sure there is something good in your life. And I know you are probably very angry to what I have said but you are only angry because it is the truth. The truth will set you free.
Re: Going fishing?
why the anonymity?? what a cowardly way to go about picking apart someone's psyche on such an intimate level - by flaying them over the internet in front of others while you hide your name and who you are - ?? how small and sad and weak. the things you said might hold truth but your execution is piss poor and again, weak.
ps - this is a journal.
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How about starting with the truth behind your identity?
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And yet, Kelly has a zillion complements and she is the only one complaining...
HEY NANCY! THIS IS FOR YOU....
*PLINK* *PLINK*
That is two pennies... go buy yourself a fuckin' clue... and with the change buy a life!
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it's all patholigical and shit.
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You have NO LIFE if you've nothing better to do than read people's journals and post as an anon. If you think so little of Kelly, why the fuck are you taking time to read her journal and comment on her life and her friends?
Hmmmm...........jealousy's a bitch, ain't it?
Get a life.
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until you can do that, Shut The Fuck Up, mmmkay?
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(Anonymous) 2002-07-02 08:13 pm (UTC)(link)Forget it. Keep feeding her what she needs.
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I have had MANY serious honest discussions with Kelly where she has gotten very annoyed with me. However, I never hid behind my words, and I never was mean like you are. I was serious, straight forward, and honest (correct me if I am wrong Kelly). I also was me... flawed, caring, up front, blunt... but never hurtful, never rude, and I never embarrassed her in public.
If you really care about someone you will be honest and up front. Since you are not, I will just make this bold statement...
Fix your own problems first before you have room to tell anyone else what to do with their lives!
*plink* *plink*
Re: Going fishing?
I know exactly where Kelly is coming from when she writes in here, as do many of us who are lucky enough to know her. If what she writes bothers you so much, do yourself and us a favor and don't read the journal.
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(Anonymous) 2002-07-02 08:11 pm (UTC)(link)Yes. I am just a coward. That is exactly why I wanted to be unknown.
For the record - I am not Nancy. I do not even know who she is. But alas.
Re: Going fishing?
So on top of everything else, you're either a bad liar. or even more pathetic than previously supposed..
Think about it (a stretch, I know). You're either Nancy, or you're someone who hates Kelly enough to want to post obnoxious rants in her journal.
Assuming possibilitiy #2, then you must either know Kelly and have a reason (real or imagined) for hating her, in which case you pretty much have to know who Nancy is, or you're a random pathetic attention-seeker.
So, you're either Nancy, more pathetic than imagined; a different pathetic liar; or a random lame-ass. Wanna trade whichver of those you are for what's behind Door #4?
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And I don't know Kelly in real life so maybe I'm able to read both his comments and your responses completely dispassionately.
I thought the user was trying to make a point. The way everyone jumped in rather showed part of the point I think and justifed the use of anonymous.
Dispassionately yours,
-Gager
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And if they really are a "friend" they should at least show their face to indicate who they are so that Kelly could know where they're coming from. That's just flat cowardly. How does Kelly know who in the hell is passing judgement on her and if they have any comprehension of who she is in real life?
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Here is an example: Current picture is ok but prolly needs to be run through a few filters for lighting. I've met her and she is incredibly cute, sweet, and fun to be around. Here's another example: It was nice of you to care enough to post. You were wrong, selfish, cowardly, an idiot, obviously untrained in even the most minimal of psychology, and visibly don't care enough for her to be a real friend. See how this works? Good. :)
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What's really funny is, when Kellinator was posing, and wanted to create a mad icon,
Who's fishing now?
comments with a negative spin? check
oh wait, that's *your* post.
Kelly's e-mail address is on her user info page. Real friends are honest and compasionate, and when it comes time to handle shortcomings, it's generally best done in private. If you weren't fishing for attention, why take it public?
Or if you feel your words need the added weight of being public criticism, why not sign you name?
Oh yeah, when it's two people talking, it's a diologue. But when it's one person bitching, it's just a diatribe.
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Yowsa!
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